Picking the Photographer  

Thursday, October 1, 2009

We decided early on that one of the most important things to us in planning our wedding would be the photography. We wanted to make sure that we found a photographer whose style we liked and that we felt comfortable with, so that we would be fairly sure of getting the type of pictures we wanted-- relaxed portraits and plenty of good candids.


That said, neither of us knows a ton about photography, except "I like this" and "I don't like that".

We still have a limited budget, too, but we agreed that we were willing to spend a bit more on the photography if necessary to get a photographer we wanted and cut back somewhere else to make up for it.

When we were originally planning on booking in Galveston, I began researching photographers in the Galveston/Houston area. We found a few whose websites had up lots of great examples of their photography, and we decided to interview them on the weekend that we went down to Galveston to check out reception sites.

We met first with Melissa Higday of For Keeps Photography. I liked her website a lot, although the music bothered Scott a bit. But he's a web programmer. He's particular about websites. We got along with Melissa well, and I spent a good while looking through her wedding albums. I liked what I saw. I liked it a lot, in fact. Then she showed us her price sheet and my eyes just about popped out of my skull. She lists her prices on her website, but I had kept telling myself "must be too good to be true". She starts at $550 for the first two hours and $150 for every hour after that, which also includes full reproduction rights to the images, an online gallery, and a high-res CD/DVD. Needless to say, this is a much better deal than a lot of the other photographers I had looked at.

I immediately thought, "But you get what you pay for!" I was worried that if we hired her for that low, low price, we might somehow get short shrift on something. So I started asking questions. Turns out that she relocated to Texas from California relatively recently, so is still working on becoming known in this area as a wedding photographer. She confided to me that she's considering raising her prices before too much longer.

After the meeting, Scott and I went back to our hotel room to discuss it. I was impressed with her work, felt comfortable with her personally, and of course her price was amazing.

The other photographer that I had singled out to meet over that weekend was Michel (I didn't catch his last name) at Black Dress Wedding. I love, love, love their website. Something about the spirit of it spoke to me. I make no secret of the fact that I find the Wedding Industry scary. I'd like to make it through my wedding without ever once setting foot in a bridal salon. I'm not interested in seating charts, veils or garters. A lot of the wedding "frou frou" that is so "traditional" is, in fact, created out of whole cloth by the Wedding Industry, and, to tell you the truth, it's just not who we are.

That said, looking over Black Dress Wedding's website, I began to get nervous for another reason. What if our wedding wasn't as "cool" as the others I was seeing here?!

Okay, I know that was a stupid thing to think. But then I turned to their pricing page and winced. Sure, the $1500 package wouldn't be much higher than For Keeps' pricing, but it was missing something. The reproduction rights didn't come into the picture until you were at the $3600 package. Yikes! I know we had said to ourselves, "Spend what you have to to get the photographer you want," but I just wasn't sure that the extra "cool" factor of Black Dress was really worth an extra $2000, especially once I met Melissa and admired her work, too. Melissa just seemed more laid back and somehow more our style, even if she wasn't as much of a rebel against the Wedding Industry.

I talked this over with Scott that night in our hotel room. We hadn't met the guy from Black Dress yet, but we were both leaning heavily towards Melissa. I was a little worried about booking the first photographer we had met, but I'm the type of person that will start obsessing and panicking if I have too many options before me, while Scott is the type of shopper who buys the first thing he sees that he likes. Which is why we bought my ring the day after the proposal at the first store we went too (and it's gorgeous).

So we booked Melissa, and I'm happy with that decision. I do feel a little bad about making that decision before meeting with Black Dress, but I figure I have enough other things to fret about without obsessing over that.

Since we've since moved the location to Rockport, I contacted Melissa to ask about her travel rates. She assured me that she wouldn't charge anything extraordinary, just enough to cover her own travel expenses. I think we still came out ahead here.

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Picking the Date, or the Trials and Tribulations of an Enormous Family  

Monday, September 28, 2009

I have a big family. My father has six step-brothers and sisters who are also his first cousins by blood (my grandmother married her sister's husband after her sister died). They all have families and kids of their own, with the majority of them girls and are now between the ages of 18 and 32. The last few years have been rife with weddings in our family. Almost all of them live in Indiana, which has meant a fair bit of traveling for me and my immediate family, being in Texas.


So shortly after I announced our engagement, I discovered that two of my cousins were engaged as well. One is planning her wedding for September of 2010, which I figured wouldn't be an issue since we wanted to marry in May. The second one, however, was not only planning her wedding in May, but couldn't really alter it at all as hers was fixed around her graduation from the U.S. Naval Academy! Ouch.

At the time Scott and I figured that our wedding date would be set by the cruise we chose for our honeymoon. After looking over the options for a cruise sailing from Galveston, we decided on one that would stop at ports in the Bahamas and Key West. The only problem was that this cruise is only offered once a month in 2010. The one in May conflicted with my cousin's wedding. So we decided to book the one sailing June 13, and plan the wedding for June 12.

As I wrote in the previous post, however, finding a venue that we liked and at a price we could stomach didn't bode well for June 12. So we settled on June 6, one week before the cruise, figuring that this would actually be kind of nice as we'd have a chance to go home and unwind from wedding insanity (wedsanity?) and pack for the cruise (rather than have to worry about that with all the other wedding preparations). But another cousin was to graduate high school on June 5, which would mean that his family would most likely not make it to the wedding.

Some of you might wonder that I'm so concerned about having all my cousins at the wedding (or as many as realistically possible). You'd think that in a family of 30+ cousins in my generation I'd not be likely to be close to many of them. But my parents put in a lot of effort to visit them regularly, so I did grow up close to them. And the cousin whose May wedding and Naval Academy graduation presented the first conflict actually lived in Texas for a few years when we were kids, so we're even closer.

Anyway, after some hemming and hawing, and some stress, we decided (again on the suggestion of my ingenious mother) to move it to May 30. Not only was this date not blocked off on anybody's calendars as far as I could tell, but it was the Sunday before Memorial Day. That meant that those traveling from out of state would most likely have that day off, hopefully making it less of a hardship for them to travel to Texas. Of course, the cost of travel arrangements on a holiday weekend might offset that, but I repeated to myself my mom's mantra: There is nothing perfect in this world. Any weekend we pick is going to have SOME issues. Besides, this way I still get my May wedding.

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Step One: Location!  

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Well, actually, step one COULD be date. This sort of depends on whether you have your heart set on a venue that's likely to book up far in advance, in which case your venue could dictate your wedding date.


Scott's dream is for a beach wedding. We live in Central Texas, 3+ hours drive from the nearest coast. This is doable, but is sort of on the verge of being a destination wedding. I guess by some standards it is. Meh.

We first wanted to do Galveston, since we wanted to do a cruise for our honeymoon and Galveston is the only cruise ship port in Texas. Problem: Hurricane Ike. Galveston is still recovering and repairing from that. But we figured it couldn't hurt to see what was back up already. So, we took a weekend trip down there to check things out.

We quickly discovered that any beachfront hotel would be happy to host our wedding-- at astronomical prices. Since every penny of this wedding is coming out of our pockets, not our parents', that's a problem. We also tasted bile in the back of our mouths when we were handed enormous, frilly pamphlets and brochures with all the rules and menus and stuff. Strike two: none of these places were interested in letting us have outside catering. Again, astronomical prices.

Finally I found a pavilion on Stewart Beach, whose website advertised it as being available for event rental, outside catering permitted. Yay! Except... it was still under repairs from Ike. Yes, they thought it would be finished by the summer of 2010. No, they weren't taking reservations for it yet. No, they couldn't even tell me when they would start taking reservations.

Ugh.

We came home and debated it, and I took to calling back weekly to get a status update. Finally I just about broke down under the stress! I wanted to get something booked already.

My mom, who is awesome and supportive despite being a little disappointed that we're not doing a Catholic ceremony, suggested that we take a look at Rockport, which is a coastal town not far from Corpus Christi, a couple hours' drive on down the coast from Galveston. She said that she had spoken to someone who had gotten married there this past summer and that it came highly recommended. Couldn't hurt to look, anyway.

Neither Scott or I have ever been to Rockport, but I turned to the interwebs for info and found exactly what we wanted: the pavilions at Rockport Beach Park. They have a lovely brochure up on their website, with pictures of beach weddings with reception at the pavilion. Yes, outside catering. And CHEAP. Joy!

After a number of phone calls and some scurrying to figure out the best date for my enormous extended family, we put our names down for May 30, 2010. That's the Sunday right before Memorial Day. We couldn't get a Saturday-- apparently they're booked already for all Saturdays next year in May, June, July, and August. (yikes!)

We're planning a weekend trip down there next weekend to scope the place out!

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Day 1  

Welcome to my blog. It's not much! It's really just a place for me to spill my guts about the process of planning my wedding. A bit of background: Scott & I have been engaged since March, but in true lazy geek fashion, have dragged our feet on starting the wedding planning for the last six months. Something lit a fire under my ass this last week, so I decided to get in gear!


Scott & I are both geeks. I grew up on Dr. Mario and Monkey Island. He decided to become a programmer the first time he played with his old Atari. We actually met on World of Warcraft! We love to spend our free time playing boardgames and watching Futurama and various anime and old kung fu movies.

This is actually wedding numero dos for me, so I'm not completely without an idea of what to expect from this insane process. We're determined NOT to let the wedding industry tell us what we have to do or not do for our wedding. I have a feeling that won't always make for the smoothest ride, but we're going to have fun, no doubt about that.

Enough blather. On with the show!

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